2023年12月6日 星期三

關於選擇

 https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-make-a-tough-decision-break-it-down-and-listen-to-your-gut

https://ideas.ted.com/what-happens-when-hard-choices-are-made-for-us/


https://www.ted.com/talks/ruth_chang_how_to_make_hard_choices

1. 每個決定都有自己的優點,沒有任何一個決定會完全比另外都好

2. 我們會覺得是因為自己笨,所以不能做正確的決定

3 . 除非我有Netflix/DVD告訴我接下來會發生什麼,我們才能點對點的比較,但即使點對點的比較你還是有可能會懊悔自己怎麼沒有做另外一個選擇,所以選擇之所以困難是因為我們忽視自己。

4. 如果選擇很困難那就假設搭們都一樣好,那你其實只要擲硬幣就好。但事實上沒有任何一個完全都好,但重要的選擇應該不是那樣運作的。

5.Puzzle的來源是因為衡量的value. 並非science,如果比較兩個case重量的話,只有三個答案 equal/lesser/greater 。以科學的角度看世界,我們選擇最好的答案基於科學的觀點。

I think the puzzle arises because of an unreflective assumption we make about value. We unwittingly assume that values like justice, beauty, kindness, are akin to scientific quantities, like length, mass and weight.

we tend to assume that scientific thinking holds the key to everything of importance in our world, but the world of value is different from the world of science. The stuff of the one world can be quantified by real numbers. The stuff of the other world can't. 

If there's a best alternative, then that's the one you should choose, because part of being rational is doing the better thing rather than the worse thing, choosing what you have most reason to choose. 

6. 選擇之所以困難,是因為我們忽略自己,忽略了自己的因素

Understanding hard choices in this way uncovers something about ourselves we didn't know. Each of us has the power to create reasons. 

7. 你想成為什麼?

So when we face hard choices, we shouldn't beat our head against a wall trying to figure out which alternative is better. There is no best alternative. Instead of looking for reasons out there, we should be looking for reasons in here: Who am I to be?

8. Drifters allow the world to write the story of their lives. They let mechanisms of reward and punishment -- pats on the head, fear, the easiness of an option -- to determine what they do. So the lesson of hard choices: reflect on what you can put your agency behind, on what you can be for, and through hard choices, become that person. (One's agency is one's independent capability or ability to act on one's will.)

9. 困難的選擇給了我們機會瞭解自己更多

Hard choices are precious opportunities for us to celebrate what is special about the human condition, that the reasons that govern our choices as correct or incorrect sometimes run out, and it is here, in the space of hard choices, that we have the power to create reasons for ourselves to become the distinctive people that we are. And that's why hard choices are not a curse but a godsend.